Don’t Let Frustration Control You

"I hate this process", the client I'll call "Kim" said, pausing after each word for emphasis, voice strained with pain. She repeated it, with even more vehemence: "I HATE looking for a job", and, "It only makes me feel lousy." And "Why does it have to be so hard?"

I had no answers. She was venting, and listening is part of what I do. Perhaps my listening would help her blow off some of this froth of anger, this negative energy. It IS hard, even for someone as bright and talented as Kim – because it’s not her choice to do it, nor is it her profession which she truly is good at and loves.

And therein is the heart of the job search process: energy. And pain. And in the end, at some mystery date that feels like it will never arrive, joy.

This story is about the energy part. If Kim keeps gathering her energy into her anger and frustration, it will keep that anger and frustration alive. Like a flame with just enough air and fuel, it will continue to burn, and burn. And while doing so, it will take energy away from other, better, and more productive things, like making that cup-of-coffee appointment with a person who's a possible link to a new job. The energy is better spent on such activities because 5 minutes of face time is more powerful than an hour on the phone, more powerful than any email or InMail.

In other words, put the energy where it should be: in effective search activities. No matter how hard it is, you have to do this. No matter how much work it is, you have to do it. Because to do otherwise -- meaning, to do nothing, or to avoid the necessary activities, or to sputter and fume at the process -- will put your energy elsewhere.

And seeing as how you have only so much energy, save it for what's going to help you.

So smother that flame of frustration. When you find yourself thinking, "What's the use?", cut short that thought, and replace it with "I have to do this. It's the only way." Take it on faith -- yours, or mine if you'd like -- that you WILL land a job, that it IS hard work to get it, that there's NO way around the pain except to march straight through it.

And when it's over, I'll celebrate with you.

Joanne in Forbes.com: 10 Warning Signs That A Recruiter Is Not Right for You

Joanne quoted on Forbes.com: 

Joanne Meehl and 9 other coaches on the Forbes.com Coaches Council talk about why some recruiters are not a good fit for you.

Joanne Meehl named to Forbes Coaches Council

We’re thrilled to announce: Joanne Meehl named to Forbes Coaches Council

Joanne Meehl, Founder of Joanne Meehl Career Services, a career strategy and job search coaching company, has been accepted into the Forbes Coaches Council, an invitation-only community for leading business and career coaches.

Joanne joins other Forbes Coaches Council members, who are hand-selected, to become part of a curated network of successful peers and get access to a variety of exclusive benefits and resources, including the opportunity to submit thought leadership articles and short tips on industry-related topics for publishing on Forbes.com.

Forbes Councils combines an innovative, high-touch approach to community management perfected by the team behind Young Entrepreneur Council (YEC) with the extensive resources and global reach of Forbes. As a result, Forbes Council members get access to the people, benefits and expertise they need to grow their businesses — and a dedicated member concierge who acts as an extension of their own team, providing personalized one-on-one support.

Joanne Meehl says, “I’m thrilled to have been chosen to join the Coaches Council. For years I’ve referred job candidates to Forbes articles and guidance as among the best in current business news, so to be recruited to be on the Council is a huge honor. I hope my contributions to Forbes and other Council members help even more those who are career-minded or in job search.”

Scott Gerber, founder of Forbes Councils, says, “We are honored to welcome Joanne into the community. Our mission with Forbes Councils is to curate successful professionals from every industry, creating a vetted, social capital-driven network that helps every member make an even greater impact on the business world.”

For more information about Forbes Coaches Council, visit https://forbescoachescouncil.com. To learn more about Forbes Councils, visit forbescouncils.com.

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